[P2] Enforce data integrity and harden container startup

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Summary

• Make find-or-create paths recover safely from uniqueness races without masking unrelated database failures.
• Add a migration that deduplicates existing rows and enforces unique member and custom-domain constraints.
• Expand and index event names for operational queries.
• Flush buffered analytics and close HTTP sessions during shutdown.
• Generate runtime configuration safely, bound database startup waits, and make migrations explicit and fail-closed.
• Keep the database private to the Compose network and add a one-shot migration service.

Priority

P2 — improves correctness, rollout safety, and recovery under concurrent multi-worker operation.

Dependency

Stacked on #2. Review and merge #2 first; after it merges, retarget this PR to main.

Validation

• Migration module imports successfully.
• Compose topology tests pass.
• Source-tree parsing and repository consistency checks pass.

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Superseded by upstream PR Kyrela#113.